Every girl likes a compliment…

I am actually really keen to hear all of your thoughts on this ladies.

I have heard it being said that every girl likes a compliment but some women don’t appreciate or accept them. Having said that, it may simply be true of compliments from the opposite sex. Are we even subject to receiving compliments from other women?  So many questions!

Recently a woman I admire told me that I have a great gift for motivating people. I immediately responded by saying – ‘thanks… why are you being weird?’ (Don’t judge me -its the first thing that came out). I’m just not used to a woman complimenting me with encouraging words and I guess I became aware of just how awkward it made me feel. She then went on to say that women don’t compliment or encourage each other enough and she felt it was important to let me know where my strengths lie from a fellow female perspective. She ended by saying ‘Every girl likes a compliment’.

This really got me thinking… I mean, it’s very true and it can be said that receiving a compliment whether from a male or female and whether about hair, clothes or intellect can be very pleasant but it simply is not done often enough between women. At least i believe that to be the case in my life! So, during my thought process, I began thinking about all of the great women in my life and how often I compliment them and realised that it is just not as often as i should.

As women we are so used to seeing ourselves as competitors that saying something encouraging or complimentary to another woman is the last thing we think of doing. For example, If a beautiful woman we don’t know personally enters our space, we do the usual female scan up and down of her clothes, hair, face etc and subconsciously weigh ourselves up against her whilst assuming all men in the room will see exactly what we see. C’mon, let’s be honest, we have all done it before. For me it’s been, If a woman I don’t know walks into a room I am in and is slimmer and more beautiful (however i measure that?!) it’s almost a threatened feeling that comes over me thinking -‘I bet my partner wishes I was that slim’ (which i realise is my own demon entirely). It’s insane to think of how unsupportive we can be to other women based on our own insecurities.

In conclusion, perhaps if we all made a conscious effort to compliment each other more, we may end up strengthening each other and empowering other women to keep growing, focusing on their strengths and looking beautiful for themselves and not for anyone else. I mean really think about it… If we had experienced positivity from the women we have happened to cross paths with all throughout our lives, we would have been a serious force to be reckoned with even back in our teens.

Maybe we should all make an effort throughout today to tell another woman what we admire, like or even love about them and take it one day at a time. Throw some compliments and love out there! I know I will x